Can you imagine dumping your wife off at some guy’s house so he would not kill you? Abraham did this. What a chump.
Unfortunately, men do this all the time today, just a little differently. By leaving his wife at the king of Egypt’s house, Abram made a lot of money. See, his wife was beautiful and he knew Pharaoh liked pretty women enough to kill off their husbands to get them. So, he came up with the story to make Pharaoh believe Sarai was only his sister. Instead of killing him, the king of Egypt gave Abram all kinds of wealth and favors in exchange for this beautiful woman.
Your wife serving other men’s needs
For Sarai’s sake, God intervened and got her out of that mess, but we must learn from Abram’s experience. Men do something similar to this today when they send their wives off into the workplace. Trading their marriage for money, men increase their net worth everyday. God created the woman to participate in the man’s life purpose, not to be an added financial asset for his spendthrift thinking.
After marrying my wife, I did not send her out to a job. Like a Proverbs 31 woman, she volunteered for charitable causes, learned to keep house, and prepared for the first child God gave us. Some men who believe a woman should not work will send her into the workforce until she has a child, then she can come home. I strongly believe our homes and nation would be stronger if we focused on family first, not finances.
It is especially wrong when a man sits at home on “disability” income or some other excuse and sends his wife off to work in his place.
Other men lusting after your wife
You would not be surprised to learn that most affairs begin in the workplace. We could eliminate many of our problems in marriage if husbands and wives would team up together in the workplace or privately owned businesses. Instead, to feel successful and respected, the woman often waltzes into work with skimpy attire, paint on her face, and enough perfume to lure honeybees. She attracts attention where other men should not gaze. Like Sarai before Pharaoh, you should not put your wife or your daughters in situations where other men will freely look them over.
While we claim to live in a civilized, non-chauvinist world, society is full of perverts. Many men parade their wives in skimpy clothes to show off to the other guys how lucky they are. Putting your wife in immodest clothing or sending her out of the home, away from her calling and her children, is marital suicide. Like most suicide attempts, you probably will survive, but you will have scars to show your foolishness.
Be the head of your house, not a commando
Being the head of your home, biblically speak, has nothing to do with barking orders. Abram was not being a good leader of his home when he put his wife at risk. By saying, “Don’t send your wife to work,” I am not suggesting you become a dictator who makes her scrub floors and dishes all day. Nor should you make her into a fashion model who idles her time away. Biblically speaking, the head of something is the source.
The head of the river, for example, is the source. The Jewish New Year’s day is literally called the Head Day. That does not mean the first day of the year is in charge of all the other days, but that all the other days flow from it, like the river. Husband, father, you are the source of your home. Your wife and children flow out from you. When you see yourself as their source instead of their commander, your leadership style will change.
Are you manipulating your wife to get the most out of her? Or are you inspiring her to greatness?
Are you helping her be all God designed her for, or are you reducing her to your money-making machine?
Is she your pacifier for unfulfilled fantasies? Or is she the woman of honor you would die for?
Do you drive your children as slaves or keep them distracted like pets? Do you inspire them to pursue their personal best and listen for the high call of God in Christ Jesus?
Learn from Abram’s mistake. Be willing to die for your wife and she will make your marriage worthwhile.