You are in the worst situation ever, and none of your friends turn out to be friends after all. Instead of saying, “We are going to get through this together,” they disappear. They worry that you will hurt their reputation because of your problems, so they distance themselves. They worry that a close brush with your possible death would make them uncomfortably close to something they are not ready to deal with yet.
No matter what is going on in a person’s life, he or needs loyal friends (Job 6:14). Who do you know right now that needs encouragement? It could be your wife or a close buddy. Are you there to carry him or her through it? Or are you just using this as an opportunity to vent all your frustrations on the person?
Job says, “You guys are pathetic. You are like fresh streams of water from melting snow. But when I go to get a drink, you are all dried up. You ‘friends’ are like a river bed in a dessert: it carries the name river, but has nothing the name implies.” (See Job 6:15-21.)
A friend sticks closer than a brother. A friend carries a friend. Love considers not how the situation looks, but how you can sacrifice for the one in need. Instead, Eliphaz and Job’s other friends draw back in fear when they see the horror of what he is suffering.
Small men make others feel small by walking on them. A great man lifts his friend to his shoulders.